Some notable things happened this week
Lila rolled over today
It is our 6th wedding anniversary
Cedric learned how to do disco fingers this week
I joined a gym and am losing the baby weight
I wrenched my knee and hip playing tennis with Neal
Oh and the most amazing thing... I got my house straightened swept and vacumed and clothes washed all in the same day!
Friday, September 17, 2010
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Finding Friends
A common topic I have been hearing about is friends; how do we make them, what do we expect of them, and how we are all wanting them?
Making friends can be a taunting task. I moved from Utah where we had lived for three years and it felt like I just made friends in the last few months of living there so when we moved to California I was determined to make friends faster. Having children is a good opening to making friends and being involved in church is the other opportunity for friends.
I decided to exploit both. I got on meetup.com and found a wonderful attachment parenting group that has helped me get out of the house twice a week with wonderful activities and places to visit. Neal and I went to all the church activities and I would try to introduce myself to the people I sat next to in Relief Society. Although the ward is very welcoming it still took longer to find friends there. After a lot of prayer I was called to Young Womens. I have loved this calling more than any I have had. Not only do I get to be with the young women I got insta-friends in my counselors. They are wonderful women who make me laugh and feel loved when ever I am around them.
I have heard several people saying that they need friends. That there is a need for more inclusion. If there are so many of us that are needing friends how are we missing each other? Here are some of the reasons I can think of:
The Stay at Home Mom sometimes feels like the Jailed at home mom. Don't get me wrong I LOVE being a SAHM but it can be difficult to get out of the house sometimes from having sick kids, cleaning the house, laundry, dinner, having to convince the children that they do want to go outside, that is would be nice to get dressed to go to the park, that getting into their car seat is not going to kill them.
Needed family time. Once Neal gets home I don't want to be running off right away. We have so little time together that I feel that I need to be spending all the time we have together. I also really like family time. I love listening to Neal and Cedric play. I enjoy reading books together with Neal and visiting about our day.
Work, when I worked I had some social outlet so other friends were as much of a necessity but it is still nice to have a few girls to go to movies with.
The fear of rejection. Will we ever get over this?
Lack of transportation, it is difficult not having a car to get to parks or other activities. When the ward boundaries are like they are in Utah it should not be too hard but here in California the boundaries are much larger and that can make it difficult to get everyone together if there is a lack of transportation
What do we do about this? How much is it our job to get out there an how much it is other people's job to include us?
To be continued
Making friends can be a taunting task. I moved from Utah where we had lived for three years and it felt like I just made friends in the last few months of living there so when we moved to California I was determined to make friends faster. Having children is a good opening to making friends and being involved in church is the other opportunity for friends.
I decided to exploit both. I got on meetup.com and found a wonderful attachment parenting group that has helped me get out of the house twice a week with wonderful activities and places to visit. Neal and I went to all the church activities and I would try to introduce myself to the people I sat next to in Relief Society. Although the ward is very welcoming it still took longer to find friends there. After a lot of prayer I was called to Young Womens. I have loved this calling more than any I have had. Not only do I get to be with the young women I got insta-friends in my counselors. They are wonderful women who make me laugh and feel loved when ever I am around them.
I have heard several people saying that they need friends. That there is a need for more inclusion. If there are so many of us that are needing friends how are we missing each other? Here are some of the reasons I can think of:
The Stay at Home Mom sometimes feels like the Jailed at home mom. Don't get me wrong I LOVE being a SAHM but it can be difficult to get out of the house sometimes from having sick kids, cleaning the house, laundry, dinner, having to convince the children that they do want to go outside, that is would be nice to get dressed to go to the park, that getting into their car seat is not going to kill them.
Needed family time. Once Neal gets home I don't want to be running off right away. We have so little time together that I feel that I need to be spending all the time we have together. I also really like family time. I love listening to Neal and Cedric play. I enjoy reading books together with Neal and visiting about our day.
Work, when I worked I had some social outlet so other friends were as much of a necessity but it is still nice to have a few girls to go to movies with.
The fear of rejection. Will we ever get over this?
Lack of transportation, it is difficult not having a car to get to parks or other activities. When the ward boundaries are like they are in Utah it should not be too hard but here in California the boundaries are much larger and that can make it difficult to get everyone together if there is a lack of transportation
What do we do about this? How much is it our job to get out there an how much it is other people's job to include us?
To be continued
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